Wednesday, March 29, 2006
Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help lift him up."
One of the most common questions we received when people learned we were adopting was what was our bio son going to think. He had been the "Baby" of the family for 3 years and was (and is) truly doted on. People were further concerned when they realized one of the boys we were adopting was only 6 months younger than him.
In the "Adoption World" this is called Artifical Twinning. Some agencies and social workers are strongly opposed to this and others allow it. There are success stories and their are some children who really struggle with suddenly becoming a "twin".
This was something we prayed about and over often. We knew and had read of the difficulties that both children could have because of this. Often my prayer would be that our "twins" would have a relationship like David and Jonathan. It is hard to be a Christian in this world and I would love for my boys to have each other to sharpen each other and encourage each other.
I have to say God heard our prayers and answered mightily.
Right away they were fascinated with each other. The language barrier was only a minor inconvenience. The hardest thing was our adopted son did not know how to play. He had no imaginary play and did not even begin to know how to play with toys even when guided (this has since resolved and he has a wonderful imagination and knows exactly how to play).
My solution was to bring the ride on toys inside and let them ride all over the house together. Shocking for a neat-nik like me! But hey, to see my little guys laughing and driving circles around my kitchen was a blessing! Also in the evenings when my dh came home I would put them in our bike trailer and ride them around the neighborhood. They loved this and it was good bonding time for them.
During those early weeks we had MANY Dr.'s appointments which involved a myriad of needles... the cutest thing was after returning from one our adopted 3 yo ran into the house and gave his brother a huge hug. It was as if he was saying "You have NO idea what I just went through. I am so glad to see you buddy!"
It has been such a blessing to see their relationship evolve. It's not perfect theysurely have their bortherly momoents ;o) However, they truly love each other and their personalities mesh so well. One has the heart of a leader the other a heart of a servant. They are very much like the Bible describes David and Jonathan...
Thank you Jesus!