"We are all handmade people created by a God who is not safe or small." Rend Collective Experiment

Saturday, October 18, 2008

Jen from Going Ghana Gone is doing a series on 3 parenting tips that work for you. You can read more at her BLOG

Here are 3 of mine.

1. Seek God's Help

James 1:5~
If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.

I have never made so many decisions as I have as a parent. There are so many things to consider and so many of them seem so weighty and heavy with consequences.

There are many times I have been at a complete loss whether it be in regards to a discipline situation or counseling a child who has been hurt...from choosing whether or not a child should do an activity... to curriculum choices; He is faithful to guide me when I seek Him.

His ways are truly best. We don't need to use prayer as a last resort, but as our first line of action in parenting... and in all ways of life.

2. Know Your Calling

Philippians 2:16-17~
as you hold out the word of life—in order that I may boast on the day of Christ that I did not run or labor for nothing. But even if I am being poured out like a drink offering on the sacrifice and service coming from your faith, I am glad and rejoice with all of you.

Parenting is hard work. It's demands are constant and not always immediately rewarding.

The world would have us to believe that we are to seek a life of ease and luxury. If you spend any time watching TV , movies, and commercials it is easy to become discontent with your life as a parent. Surely there is something more the muli-tmedia tells us. I could be more beautiful ..more fashionable..drive a better car..have a perfect house..go to dinner..the theater..movies..etc all if I didn't have to do x,y,z for my children.

While there is nothing wrong with any of these things they are not to be the sole desire of a Christian's heart. We are here for something more. We know that life is but a vapor( and as Paul states in the verse above) we are to run and to labor to do what He has called us to do. We are to pour ourselves out as an offering.

If you are a parent your call is to raise your children for the glory of God. When you fully realize that God has ordained you to this the pull of the world loses it's hold and you find purpose and meaning even on days that are hard and mundane. You are on a mission from God and that is exciting.

Last night I had a very vivid dream that Jim, I, our oldest son, and my friend Melissa were driving supplies in Uganda in a big truck. It was very exciting and very purposeful. We just knew we were all doing something for the Glory of God. I woke up and thought how incredible it must be to live a life like that. Then I thought about laundry I need to do.

God hasn't called me to deliver food to villages in Uganda, but He has called me to keep the 12 other people in this family in clean clothes. The rewards and excitement can be just as wonderful.. if I am faithful.

3. Forgive and Ask Forgiveness

Matthew 6:12~
Forgive us our debts,
as we also have forgiven our debtors.

I don't think anything has taught me more about my shortfalls than parenting children. I can't tell you how many times I have been lecturing a child and thought about how God could be giving me the same exact speech. We have all fallen short of the glory of God.

One day one of our young children had done something naughty. After being corrected he approached me and said, "I'm sorry, Mama" and gave me a hug. I told him it was o.k. and gave him a hug, but he must have sensed that I really didn't think it was "o.k" You see in my head I was wondering if he was really sorry for I just knew he would do the naughty thing again. Then he asked me a question which brought me under deep conviction... "You give me Mama?" He wanted to know if I had forgiven him...the way he asked it was so telling. You give me.

Forgiveness is a gift I need to give...especially to my children. How many times do I tell God I am sorry and God knows I am going to march right back and commit the same sin over again. Yet he forgives me. He doesn't think of me as naughty. He loves me for who He sees I am through His son Jesus.... That is how I am to view my children at all times. I am to forgive them as God forgives me. We are all struggling with temptation and together with the help of Jesus we can be victorious.

I have also found there are times I have to ask my children for forgiveness. It doesn't make me less in their eyes, but shows them that I too struggle on this daily walk.

There is something comforting to know as a family we walk together, stumble together, get up together, and rejoice together as we "step heavenward." (Hee, hee )

Thursday, October 16, 2008

Philippians 3:14~

I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus. Philippians 3:14~

Our two 10 year olds are among some of the most amazing people I have ever met. They are so much alike it's hard to believe they spent 9 years on separate continents.

They are
hard working
perfectionists..and they are both as fast as the wind.

I am blessed to know them, and I am blessed to have them call me Mama.

Monday, October 13, 2008

Philippians 4:4-4:5~

Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near.

We hope everyone is having a Blessed Fall!

I have so enjoyed all of the pictures on your Blogs of the leaves changing and fall activities!

Here we have cooled down into the 80's which feels just lovely.

Warm enough for October noodle races..

And cool enough for picnic days in the park!

Last week we had our "Big" ultrasound of the baby. We have had the same Sonographer for all of our children since our third child. She knows our family well by now , and always makes it so fun for the children.

She takes her time time and shows all of the anatomy. Eben and Joel were quite taken with the whole thing. The didn't believe us at first that they would be able to see the baby in Mama's tummy! They loved it but poor Joel was confused as we left he wanted to know why they didn't give us the baby. After seeing the little hands and feet he didn't want to wait any longer.

So, we are happy to announce we are having us another little baby BOY!

We are very happy !!!

That brings the total to 8 boys and 4 girls for those keeping score :o)