We had a bit of excitement here on the home front the other day.
As my friend and cousin were leaving our house they nearly stepped on a Cottonmouth Water Moccasin which had crawled up onto our front porch. It struck at my friend and praise the Lord missed. It was one mean, angry, and poisonous snake.
We were in quite a quandry as to what to do. We had one deadly snake right outside our door and a houseful of little ones who Praise God were not the ones who had come across it.
I called Jim hoping he was in our area but he was across town. He calmly told me to put our eldest son on the phone. Our eldest had already been asking me to let him kill the snake but the Mama in me was not too fond of this idea. Even though our son is now bigger and taller and stronger than me.. I often have a hard time letting go of the idea that he is still my little boy.
I watched as our son calmly listened to his Dad's instructions . He then retrieved his pellet gun and proceeded to deal with the snake. I marveled at his focus and his drive to take care of the task at hand.
As I watched him I was reminded of him as a little boy. Our son was (and is) what many would label as strong willed. When he was younger he was a ball full of energy. He knew his little mind and would frequently test boundaries I had set. I can so vividly remember a trip home from the library when he was 3 years old. I had to stop the car MULTIPLE times to refasten his seat belt which he was taking great delight in unbuckling over and over again. I wondered if I would ever get him to learn to mind me.
I frequently get questions from Moms of small children on how to handle their little balls of energy who will not mind. They are all sure their little strong willed child is the only one in existence. I often tell them what a handful our eldest son was in his early years and they look at me in shock and disbelief. They can not believe that our son who is now so calm , well mannered, and helpful wasn't always so.
Somewhere over the years I learned that being strong willed wasn't really a bad thing. After all my husband Jim is incredibly strong willed. It is what allows him to be such a great employee, husband, father, preacher. He has an incredible drive. What makes his drive a blessing is that his strong will is rooted in godly desires.
As parents of strong willed children do not lose heart. God can and will use their will for His glory if they are yielded to Him. Your little one may be wearing you out. Every day teaching them right from wrong may seem fruitless as you can see little progress being made.
Do not grow weary in well-doing. You will reap a harvest! Instill God's word in their hearts and pray the Holy Spirit will apply it to their hearts. Be consistent in teaching them right from wrong. Enjoy them and play with them and let them know how much you delight in them.
The process of parenting does not always yield immediate results. It is much like the farmer waiting for a harvest. We sometimes have to wait for another season to see all that is happening underneath the soil.
Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary. Galatians 6:9~